Polycules in therapy require more than couples models with extra chairs. This guide equips therapists with evidence-based tools for mapping networks, navigating boundaries, repairing conflicts, and supporting complex non-monogamous relationship systems with skill and care.

The research is clear: the majority of people in non-monogamous (NM) relationships are receiving inadequate, and often harmful mental health care. With approximately 4-5% of Americans currently engaged in NM relationships and 21% of Americans having participated in a non-monogamous relationship at some point in their life,  the time for change is now.

Therapist Sarah Wolfer, LICSW, unpacks how ADHD novelty, autistic directness, and AuDHD systems thinking fuel ethical, consent-centered non-monogamy. Backed by a 35-study meta-analysis and U.S. prevalence data, this neurodivergent non-monogamy guide delivers sensory-smart design tips, exec-function scaffolds, consent scripts, and repair tools. Written for neurodivergent individuals and their partners, with therapy available online and in Seattle, Miami, and Boise.

The monogamy-superiority myth is a pervasive assumption that monogamous relationships are inherently more stable, intimate, or emotionally safe. However, the 2025 meta-analysis by Anderson et al. analyzed 35 studies with over 24,000 participants and found no significant differences in relationship satisfaction or sexual satisfaction between monogamous and non-monogamous individuals.

By Sarah Wolfer, LICSW | Founder, Courageous You Therapy Adolescence is a formative time for identity development, and that includes...

Finding a therapist who truly gets non-monogamy shouldn’t feel like a high-stakes scavenger hunt. But for many polyamorous and open folks, that’s exactly what it is. Too often, therapy becomes the place where you end up explaining your relationship style instead of receiving support for what brought you in. It can be exhausting, invalidating, and even harmful. The good news? You can take control of the search.

There’s no single “right way” to do non-monogamy. There’s only what feels real, what brings relief, what honors your truth, and what makes space for your wholeness as the unique human that you are. That’s why I created this free guide: What Style of Non-Monogamy Is Right for You?

I’m thrilled to announce an upcoming training uniquely crafted for therapists who are ready to elevate their practice—deepening their knowledge, challenging biases, and becoming powerful allies for non-monogamous clients seeking affirmation, understanding, and healing.

Written by Sarah Wolfer, LICSW Courageous You Founder Ketamine-Assisted Therapist As a therapist specializing in working with queer and...

We’re excited to share that Sarah Wolfer, the founder of Courageous You, was recently featured on the Affirming Minds Podcast  in an...

As a therapist who specializes in non-monogamous individuals and relationships, I find that every relationship has its own unique flavor.